Second, are there adjustments in the parameters of the P3 Photography Reference Mode that can be made in the OS software that would make it more useful for screen to print matching?
The answer to that question is yes. There are just fewer of them and some aren't very user friendly. One difference in the Apple monitors and the others you're considering is flexibility and user options. The options provided by Apple are more limited or may be less user friendly to alter than in the Sharp/NEC or Eizo models you've mentioned. That doesn't preclude it from being a good choice to satisfy what you want and need from a monitor.
You can certainly use one of the Apple displays for creating, editing, and proofing images for print and other media. You'll just have less control and fewer options. Whether that's important to you, only you can decide. Clearly, there are others better at explaining this than myself. So, let me quote from an
article that I linked earlier...
Fortunately, working with a P3 display is no different than correctly using an Adobe RGB or sRGB display. Color-managed applications such as Photoshop, Photoshop Lightroom, and InDesign automatically use whichever display profile is selected in your Mac or Windows system preferences. A P3 display is no problem as long as the selected display profile accurately describes that display. And as long as images and other documents are tagged with an appropriate color profile, color-managed applications can reproduce colors consistently on a P3 display......As with Adobe RGB, working with the P3 color gamut shouldn’t complicate your workflow if it’s color-managed.If you like what the the Apple Pro Display XDR offers (HDR and undeniably cool design) and if what it lacks (easy user calibration and flexible color settings) isn't a barrier for you, I would go for it. All the reports I've seen would suggest that it's a well calibrated display from the factory and has a wide color gamut. It also has a great contrast range, thanks to a bright backlight with full-array local dimming, for viewing HDR content.
What Sharp/NEC and Eizo offer is a wide array of configuration and calibration options to allow the user maximum control and flexibility. What they lack is HDR. They're excellent SDR monitors with support for viewing HDR content, but they're not HDR.
Ultimately, you'll decide what features, specifications, and capabilities are most important for your use and your priorities. I suspect that you'll be very happy with any of the displays that you've mentioned as replacements for your current monitor.