Thanks to everyone for the thoughtful and informative posts. I guess I've been misinformed this whole time. I've spent some time trying to wrap my head around this new, to me, information.
Consider a tight head shot from a close working distance. If it's true that the projection perspective and, therefore, the "look" doesn't change, would that mean that a 35mm lens on a MF camera would be as unflattering to a person's face as a 14mm on an APS-C camera? If so, then I've been completely wrong in my view about some of the differences between different sized formats. If it's not true, then wouldn't some of these differences be evident, even in a small print?
There is so much good information on these boards. I've got even more to learn than I thought. Thanks again.