Ironically I saw a very good image on flickr that looked as if it was taken in daytime where the photographer claimed he used a 60 second exposure and I wondered how he had managed it?
A full moon lighting, correctly exposed, looks very close to sunlight, but again the ND400 (not a grad) or one of its siblings are the most usual suspects for that.
Fot light metering, I'd say it's best to measure light without filter and correct for the filter if you know it.
With filter on, be careful that light entering the camera by the viewfinder doesn't screw up the measurement. There is an opaque eyepiece on some straps, just for that purpose.
Shooting digital, histogram is the judge anyway.