Just a quick report as to how I have ended up doing this. Thanks for the suggestions.
I tried Synctoy, but could not figure out how to get that to propagate deletions. I am trying to keep two machines identical, not simply add files between them.
Allway Sync, on the other hand, seems to do fine. First I created a status quo backup on the NAS array (15 TB of RAID 5!). I make this type of backup anew every month or so as an ultimate store for old images. I will keep these for a while.
Next I optimized my main workstation, cleaning up the file structure and contents. This involved a fair amount of garbage delection (using ACDSee Photo Manager). File pruning is just so hard in LR and I do have the NAS should I err.
Then I synced files, catalog, previews, and settings (all located in one main directory) to a fresh directory on a portable drive.
Moving to the laptop at the studio, I ran a sync operation from the portable drive, targeting both the laptop drive and a 1TB USB drive. Allway Sync can do multiple targets simultaneously. It propagated deletions as well as changes from the main system, so this gave me two identical copies at the studio.
Now it is relatively easy. Every time I make images at the studio (I am usually tethered to the laptop), I sync to the portable drive. When I get to the main station to do post, I sync from the portable, do the post and then sync back to the portable. This happens most every day and takes little attention.