I did, second one says:
"•Robust discussion is to be encouraged but offensive language is not. That is not intended to be a ban on all language which to which anyone might take exception - we are not maiden aunts - but consideration of whether the words used would be spoken in a face-to-face conversation in a home will give some indication of what is acceptable."
My take from all this is that using "ass" is wrong, but using "shit" is fine, according to your (different) actions to the two posters who used the terms. The first was "banned - worthy", the second was not. To me, "shit" is more offensive than "ass", but what do I know...
The problem with all of this stuff about swearing, quasi-swearing etc. is that its value or offence quotient is variable depending on country.
A further problem is that in general, it makes no real sense in the context of most conversations; I suppose it simply serves as a valve to relieve pressure building up in the brain.
I remember that the garage door once swung around in the breeze and gave me a bang on the elbow's funny bone. Far from funny, it produced a stream of oaths I was surprised to know was perfectly within my power to recite. The pain was so severe that I remember having to go indoors and lie down in order not to do so in the driveway.
I suppose that illustrates the point that swearing helps the mind but not the body.
There's also a difference between swearing
at somebody, calling them a whatever, and swearing in a more general manner, where some insentient thing is the object of one's verbal affection. A car that won't start is an example that comes to mind.
I'm not sure about maiden aunts, though; I never had one.
However, insofar as
writing oaths goes, ¡t can mean a bit of unnecessary typing.