After receiving this good advice I tried some more tests today.
1) compared amount of camera shake visible at 100% pixel peep when my aluminum manfrotto tripod was extended to headshot height of a seated person (top two out of three leg extensions with the following variables: with/without MLU and with/without 5kg weight (bag) hanging on cord from knob just below head at top of tripod) all at 1/15, 100asa, f2.8. Result no significant differences. Conclusion: when extended at this limited height the tripod is sufficiently stable that MLU and/or adding weight makes no appreciable difference.
2) compared amount of camera shake at 100% when same tripod was extended (a) same as above (top 2 out of 3 leg extensions), (b) all three leg extensions fully extended (about headshot height of short standing person), (c) fully extended (all three leg extensions and center column also fully extended) all of these with MLU and with and without adding 10 kg weight hung on cord from knob just below tripod head at 1/15, 100asa, f2.0. Result: amount of shake increases as height of tripod is extended (ie from 2 to 3 extensions, and from 3 to full extension with center column). But no noticable difference in camera shake between images with/without 10kg bag hung from knob below head.
So looks like my particular tripod is fine for my camera at the height of 2 out of 3 leg extensions but any higher than that increases camera shake that unfortunately does not seem to be offset by hanging a weight of 10 kg on a cord from know just below head at top of tripod.