There was a 4 month period last year where I obsessed over color profiles, and making sure my prints were as color accurate as possible. I calibrated my monitor, I had ICC profiles created by professionals, and after spending thousands of dollars, I was still not satisfied. This was my own fault, because there is no such thing as a perfect color accurate profile. Colors change with even the slightest change of light. Types of lights, positioning of the print along with countless other factors play a role in how we see colors in a print.
What I did find was holding up a print next to your monitor is not a good idea. They will always be different, no matter what you think or know, they will always appear different put up next to each other. The best way I found to compare a print to what you see on a monitor, is to look at them separately. Look at the monitor, then turn to look at your print (preferably hanging close by on a wall). If you can not notice a difference doing this, then your in good shape.
Looking back I now realize that I obsessed over color too much. I know this because I work with some of the most pickiest and particular photographers in the world, and I have never once heard that the colors are slightly off. I have been told to make a print slightly lighter or darker, but I believe that was just an adjustment for that particular print, not a fault of the profile.
My advice would be to not obsess over color too much. Consult with someone who deals with color for a living such as digitaldog if it means that much to you and you need some assurance that your colors are accurate, but dont drive yourself crazy over it.