Mike, I have a D700 and a D800e and i am not experiencing such behaviour with the d800e images.
I do use AdobeStandard as default cameraprofile, else my own made with Color CheckerPasport.
I do not use D-lighting, i do proper exposure, that is expose to the right in case there is some room left.
I do notice however that previewing the image on the camera-back can give the idea it is properly exposed, but in LR it is a bit under-exposed. So i primarely watch the histogram. I also set the contrast to the minimum, does make the preview look flat, but the clipping indication is then much closer to the actual raw clipping.