I am printing the Adobe RGB test images without any editing, so monitors do not matter here.....
now I tried another print, do not remember how, I think I turned off things and used the epson preset in the printer dialogue and left it at sRGB, and it had weak colours and a grey cast. kinda like what happens if one looks at Adobe RGB test images in a web browser that is not colour managed.
Now I went and fetched a new pc laptop from downstairs, downloeaded Epson driver from the uk site, and wanted to try printing from elements2 but got shocked by the new windows Epson print dialogue. I did not know what Elements does with the colour info, so I did not want to waste paper.
Then I downloaded Lightroom4 trial since I know it converts images to some kind of ProPhoto, and spent some time trying to figure out how to turn off printer colour management, I was shocked it showed me sRGB and ARGB as default.
(with mac everything is greyed out at that stage)
I finally found the no colour management option in some custom mode, there were several different choices...
I then printed the Pixl Test image that is in Adobe RGB, and voila, no more grey cast and the colours are there.
(Lightroom4, Windows7, the new drivers from the uk site, had to turn off colour management in the print dialogue somewhere)
Now the images and programs are all on macs...
Now the problem lies with apple somewhere, must try to re-install and delete the printer from the printer list etc.
updated: I can get to the black and white mode in the printer dialogue via lightroom , after going to the right in lightroom and choosing printer manages colours, so black and white epson printing is not disabled.