... I am getting a feeling that I need to re-study photography...
Good.
(Like with any problem, the true beginning of solving it is always in admitting you have it in the first place).
So let's start with your education. The first and most important word you need to know is:
Measurbators
To become a card-carrying member of that elite club, all you need to do is pixel-peep your images on screen at 100% and compare and measure the difference between brands, lenses, sensors, apertures, etc. But do not worry, you'll be in a good company: most of us on these forums are measurbators to some degree, some more, some less. If you do not believe me, just wait till this thread turns into an epic battle between measurbators with opposing views, until geeks get involved and completely highjack it.
To continue your education, remember this advice Miles Davis gave to young jazz musicians (paraphrasing): "First, learn everything there is to learn about jazz... then forget it all and play until you are dizzy"
So, go ahead, read all those links above and learn all there is to lear about diffraction, Airy disks and circles of confusion (no, it is not a local book club or rock band).
Then, forget it all and take pictures and judge them by the feeling they create in you and your audience. If you need to stop down, do it. Yes, it will be less sharp in pixel-peeping at 100%, and it might even be less sharp when printed large enough (as Erik showed in another thread), but
only if there is a comparison print next to it. In absence of that, whatever you final product is, billboard, double-spread, or gallery print, it will be
sufficiently sharp. If your prints are still not sharp enough, chances are something is broken, or other elements of your technique are at fault.
For those who need links and a higher authority than me, I offer none less than the owner of this site, Mr. Michael Reichmann:
http://www.luminous-landscape.com/essays/stop-d.shtmlMr. Reichmann, like Miles Davis, and like all true artists and intellectuals, is perfectly capable of being a measurbator when it matters, i.e., in the first, learning phase (as indicated in his articles others quoted above), and then forgetting it and shooting for the sake of shooting, not comparing.
P.S. The above is written in a satirical tone, but, of course, only half-so