All the replies to the original question are correct.
However, here is a situation that will put a few things in perspective:
Were I to send you and a friend the same picture file and if both of you were
using the same printer/paper combination as well as the same ICC profile for that
paper/printer combination then if both of you were to print that file without any editing whatsoever using the same
printer setup then the resulting prints should be indistinguishable.
In this situation the monitor, and how it is profiled, as well as the rest of the computer hardware, is completely
irrelevent in how the print will look. The ICC profile for the printer/paper combination should guarantee a consistent print.
Once editing comes into the picture, so to speak, then how your monitor is profiled becomes very important since that determines
the apparent tone and colour of the picture file as you see it. If your monitor is badly profiled then it is very likely that, even with soft proofing,
that what you see on your screen will not look at all like the print. This will be true whatever ICC profile (canned versus your spectrophotometrically generated profile) for that printer/paper combination you are using.
Colour management is not insurmountable so your current confusion will not last if you apply yourself to understanding it.
The LuLa site as well as this particular forum has multiple brilliant explanations covering these issues and much more.
Many contributors to the forums are world authorities on colour mangement and some are authors of books that approach biblical status
concerning colour management - Schewe and Andrew Rodney spring to mind.
So start reading or watching the resources readily avalable on this site and then pose some more better thought out questions that the true expert
contributors can sink their teeth into and so really help you along.
cheers
Tony Jay