Jaap,
Stop torturing yourself with this - I say this in a friendly way - and forget Vuescan once you've made the scan, and forget this DNG business, it's largely bogus anyhow. Scans are not raw files. There is no such thing as "raw scans" - only scans which have had no adjustments applied to them, and you can easily do that without DNG. Use Vuescan for making a TIFF with as many or as few adjustments as you like, then open the image in Photoshop and finish the editing. End of story and end of problems. I would only suggest you use the infra-red feature in Vuescan for cleaning-up the image as part of the scanning process, make sure you have the colour management settings right, and make sure you aren't clipping highlight and shadow detail you wish to retain. Everything else in Photoshop. You'll be fine.