Ok, I started from zero, reset everything, cleaned printer heads, recalibrated to basic photo editing in spectraview (no luminance change) and tried something different in qimage. Where I used to use perceptual I tried relative colormetric, this produced more accurate blues and the red/pink in the sweater (digital dog test file) and ever so slightly darker than perceptual. I'm pretty happy with this now...as I start to make real world prints, I'll see if I need to tweak.... thanks for the responses everyone !
Bruce