Ok you have not had a single consistant answer so far. And i have to add my two cents which is inconsistant with all others. I have the 2209 WA and spyder 3 pro to calibrate.
What has raside my eyebrows is the 19-20-30 ! This does not seem correct. You should not be trying to adjust your llumninace with the RGB settings at all !!! By the way I also calibrate to 95 luminace ( you mentioned 90) because I work in a dim room.
I have read a ton about calibrating and I believe that when you first calibrate, you need to start with the default settings. Don't the default settings of the RGB start with 100/100/100 ?
If they do, then y ou are way off. Start a NEW cal. with the default settings of 100/100/100.
(as an aside: By the way , another poster issued a dark print topic a little while ago and wondered why he couldn't see ANY detail in the shadows. He had settings of 50/50/50. )
Once you set to the default of 100/100/100, the set your brightness and contrast. You have not mentioned what you set those to
? My monitors defaults were 75 and 75. What are your's ?
IT was suggested, that to get in the luminace value that you are talking about, 90, that you need to reduce y our brightness control to about 5-10. I did it at 10. Then adjust the contrast, instead of the brightness to reach the luminance of 90 that you want.
Finally , it was already asked of you but what kind of lighting are you viewing the print at? OBvioulsy , since you are using a 90 luminace, you are working in a dim room, and no matter what, you are alway sgoing to notivce a slightly darker print when yourr room is so dark because the monitor is always al ittle bit brighter.
So finallyly, give it a try with the settings I suggested, starting at the defaults.