John, seeing you were so interested in the flag and were concerned that it lost its' impact, what about pushing the boundaries of this image more conceptually, and really making the focal point of the flag?
I am terrible at making images B&W, and have only done a 1 minute bodgy mask job so you can get the idea, but this is one way you could represent the narrative, and the graphical elements of the headstone, and still focus on the flag.
I also had a play with the saturation of the red in the coloured layer, which produced images with a different feel. I would personally desaturate just a tad, but you can experiment if you feel like it.
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Desaturated a bit.
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Julie