The shots that I've been interested use the tones and DoF of MF
I think there are many good reasons for getting a MF kit, but I'm not sure that DOF is one of them. Generally, 35mm is capable of thinner DOF than Medium Format. The widely available f/1.2 and f/1.4 lenses from wide angle to short tele on 35mm is more than enough to get thinner DOF than typical f-numbers on MF, even with typical bellows factors. For example, the widest-aperture 35mm lenses for 35mm:
15mm f/2.8
20mm f/1.8
24mm f/1.4
35mm f/1.4
50mm f/1.2
80mm f/1.2
135mm f/2.0
200mm f/2.0
Given the same horizontal angle of view, the 645 lenses have the same angle of view at 1.56X longer focal length. Here's the lenses you'd need on 645 to get the same horizontal angle of view and DOF:
23mm f/4.4
31mm f/2.8
37mm f/2.2
55mm f/2.2
78mm f/1.9
125mm f/1.9
210mm f/3.1
310mm f/3.1
Unfortunately, at most of the focal lengths, MF does not have an f-number wide enough to get thinner DOF than 35mm. Depending on the specific manufacturers under comparison, there may be some focal lengths where MF may have lenses with slightly thinner DOF. At the wider portrait focal lengths (wide, normal, and short tele), the DOF is noticably deeper on MF and thinner of 35mm. Generally, for any given field of view, the fastest MF lenses usually have only about the same DOF as 35mm. Here's how Mamiya stacks up, for example:
24mm f/4 (thinner)
35mm f/3.5 (deeper)
45mm f/2.8 (deeper)
55mm f/2.8 (deeper)
80mm f/1.9 (same)
120mm f/2.8 (deeper)
150mm f/2.8 (thinner)
200mm f/2.8 (thinner)
300mm f/5.6 (deeper)
If you crop the sides off the 35mm so it matches the 4:3 of MF, DOF gets a little closer, but the 35-50-80 focal lengths on 35mm still have thinner DOF. Another factor is lens price/aberrations/MTF; it's possible that a f/2.8 MF lens may provide fewer aberrations and higher MTF than a similarly priced f/1.8 35mm lens, even though both will have the same DOF; however, I would guess that economies of scale cause 35mm to be favored slightly.
So while I don't think thin DOF is a good reason to get an MF kit, there are many other things to enjoy about it, including the tonal gradations, viewfinders, grain, etc. Kind regards,