ok..had to bite the bullet....installed VMware and XP....
solved the problem beautifully....i shoot to a shared folder the previews pop up in aperture much faster and the best thing is the buffer problem is gone....
this really is a joke of course....i am running 2 operating systems (along with all other apps) and the usb seems 2x faster and does not have the buffer issue.....so with a new driver for osX (and without the extra OS!) this should be even faster....
i am not sure how anyone can get anything done on XP, the simplest tasks just take a lot of digging....but i don't want to flame, i am sure someone going into osX 10.5 might feel a little lost as well sometime.....
not planning on using XP for anything other then tethered shooting, can somebody tell me how to get rid of all the STUFF that comes with XP?