Of the many hdr/fusing/averaging options available, I find the Tufuse is my current favorite. If is very similar to Enfuse but seems to offer much more natural looking highlights, and allows considerable adjustment to suit the user's tastes.
Photomatix can actually produce fairly natural looking results. Try the "Details Enhancer" mode with the "Strength" control turned down to 0, and "Micro-contrast" (in the Micro tab) set to 10.
With all these programs your degree success depends a lot on the set of input images you select. For instance, if the "Tone" sliders in Photomatix can't give you a satisfactory result, your input set may have too many excessively light or dark frames. Picking the right input set is part of the art.