Everything above on shutter speed is correct, it is more about the vibration than movement of the plane. A film crew will use fluid head dolly, you need to dampen the vibration, you can use a mono pod and rest it on something soft like your stomach or leg. If you are lucky enough with the pilot is to ask them to put your subject in line with the wing on a turn, making the your target the center of the turn circle.
Now your choice of lens is not easy, key is how large you want the house in the frame. You can do a little experiment on the ground. Get an approximate distance from plane to house (that is line of sight not hight and ground distance). Try then standing that distance from the house or one the same size and judge for your self – remembering the profile of a house is larger from the air! The bridges over the river Thames in London need a 1,000mm lens from an altitude of 1,100feet. Normally I will carry an 80-200, 400 and 1,000.
Exposure, be careful metering off the ground, as you may get unexpected reflections from windows, water etc., skewing the readings. I have found a green field or wide road works well.