You have to use Printer Manages Color. I believe this only affects Mac's so if you can print off a PC, you should be OK.
No such luck. This may not be of interest to the OP, since he's on a Mac, but on Windows, if you select printer manages color in PS in order to print with ABW, then PS will convert the image to sRGB, in order to protect the color-management-challenged-user. I believe that this doesn't affect Mac in the same way, although I also believe there are separate challenges in Mac PS printing, e.g. untagged images.
I don't know how Eric Chan created his profiles. I never used them. I can't see a way to use them now in Windows, if there was in fact a way to specify then in ABW settings. You can use some of the tools that come with QTR to create profiles for ABW and apply them in PS before sending to ABW, but if you go this route then before printing you have to have the image in RGB mode and assign (not convert) to sRGB to fool PS into leaving the image alone.
Yes, the driver is independent of Adobe software, and on Windows that's part of the problem. Because of this, Adobe has made a safety-first decision about colour management in the printer manages color case.