A coffee house?
You need 300mm in a coffee house? Is that so you can sit in the back and shoot away as opposed to sitting right in front of the stage and using a 50-100mm perspective for a much more natural look?
That is fine, everyone has a different idea. I hate seeing images of people that are overly telephoto because the photographer kept great distance. Having a longer lens is never a substitute for getting closer to the action IMO.
Just my perspective, which is completely different then yours in this case. I will always prefer the images from the photographer who got good access to the subject (performer in this case) and takes the much more intimate normal or short telephoto image over the long telephoto image from the photographer who stayed in the background.
A big pet peeve for me here would be wedding & event photos shot with a 100-300mm perspective with the photographer being seriously separated from the action and not interacting with his subjects. I find those seriously inferior to the photos shot with a 50-135mm perspective at 1/3 the shooting distance, because the photographer shooting the shorter lenses is interacting with his subjects instead of shooting like a paparazzi on the sidelines.
I think the crop bodies and the ease of using long telephoto perspectives has caused a serious shift in how people visualize their photos, and created a much larger sense of detachment from the subject due to keeping greater subject distance, losing interaction with the subject, and losing the sense of intimacy a photo taken at shorter distances has.
Of course this has only happened in amateur photography and the lower ends of the market. The best published photos still appear to be shot at wide, normal, and short telephoto perspectives.
BTW comparing the 300/2.8 to the 70-200/2.8 is fairly silly, they are almost exactly the same size, and the 70-200 is a hair heavier. Neither will be more obtrusive as you would be keeping the exact same subject distance. I consider both to be extremely obtrusive though, at least in the Canon system, people see "big white giant lens" and they absolutely react to that.